I've learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom how great is that? – Soledad O'Brien
Emotion regulation is the process through which an individual filters their emotions in order to control how they feel and, consequently, communicate these feelings. http://www.psychwiki.com/wiki/Emotion_Regulation
About 5 minutes ago I was feeling emotionally irritated and frustrated, because of another individual’s missed placed power trip over something very trivial. I was being very productive working on my dissertation, jamming out to my Sam Smith Pandora station, when I received this email detailing how I needed to reorganize some folders This came as a surprise to me, because I had already spoken to another person with equal knowledge and position about the correct way to complete this process. Normally this type of email or request wouldn’t phase me… I’m a fan of corrective criticism. However, the email came from a person who has declare dislike of me and has on more than one occasion used slight advance of power at my expense. So there I sat wanting feeling grossly irritated. Then I had this conversation with myself:
Me: Am I hurt?
Me: No, irritated but not physically or emotionally hurt
Me: Is this something I can fix?
Me: Yes, I can reorganize the folders
Me: Is there incorrect or ambiguous information that I could challenge this person about?
Me: Yes there is, but this isn’t about the information, the situation it is about the power challenge
Me: Is this a battle worth fighting?
Me: No what is the point of fighting? What would I get from fighting?
Me: Can I be victories and not fight?
Me: What would it cost me to fight?
Me: More interaction with the person, possibly additional trouble, continued irritation
Me: Do I want to continue to feel irritated?
Me: Not at all
Me: Do I really care? Does this power trip situation deserve my time and emotional reaction?
Me: Nah, I’ll pass, much more interesting things to do
Me: I’m not going to battle over something I don’t really care about, there is victory in my indifference.
Me: Zero fucks now given
Email Response: Thanks for looking over everything, I’ll correct them.
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